Behold Counseling
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When the past still lives in your body
Some hurts don’t stay in the past. They show up as a racing heart, a shutdown you can’t explain, or a reaction bigger than the moment. Healing starts with feeling safe enough to slow down and understand what your body has been carrying.
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TRAUMA THERAPY · TELEHEALTH ACROSS CALIFORNIA
Does any of this sound familiar?
You’re always on alert, scanning for what could go wrong.
You go numb or shut down when things get close or conflict rises.
Panic, nightmares, or memories show up when you least expect them.
HOW WE UNDERSTAND TRAUMA
It isn’t only about what happened. It’s about what you had to do to get through it.
Trauma can come from a single overwhelming event, like an accident, a loss, or an assault. It can also build slowly: growing up without enough comfort, being the one who held everything together, or learning that needing people wasn’t safe.
Through an attachment lens, the ways you’ve coped make sense. Staying guarded, staying busy, or staying in control once protected you. In therapy we honor those protections while helping your nervous system learn that it can rest, and that connection can feel safe again.
How we work with trauma
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Safety first, at your pace
We start by building trust and tools for steadying yourself. You decide what we talk about and when. Nothing gets rushed.
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Trauma-informed EFT
Every therapist at Behold is trained in EFT, and we use it in a trauma-informed way: building safety first, moving at your pace, and gently exploring how old hurts shape your feelings and relationships today.
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EMDR, when it fits
For some clients, we integrate EMDR alongside EFT to help process specific memories. It’s one tool we may offer, and it’s always your choice.
ABOUT EMDR
What is EMDR?
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a structured, research-supported therapy designed to help the brain process distressing memories. While you briefly bring a memory to mind, your therapist guides you through bilateral stimulation, such as side-to-side eye movements or alternating taps.
The goal is for painful memories to feel less charged, so they can sit in the past where they belong. Everyone’s pace is different, and we’ll talk through whether EMDR is a good fit for you before we begin. EMDR can be done over telehealth.
Our EMDR training
Erin Kim, AMFT, and Kelley Kuit, LMFT, have both completed EMDRIA-approved EMDR basic training, the professional standard set by the EMDR International Association. Kelley trained through a 40-hour intensive, Integrating EMDR into Clinical Practice. We both continue in ongoing EMDR consultation, so the care you receive is thoughtful, supported, and always growing.
We bring EMDR into our trauma-informed EFT approach, so the safety and steadiness you build with us always come first. Before we begin, we’ll talk through whether EMDR is a good fit for you.
OUR FOUNDATION
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Many people understand where their pain comes from and still feel stuck. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) works differently: it helps you feel and reshape the emotions trauma left behind, with a therapist steady beside you. This research-supported approach, rooted in attachment science, is at the heart of how we work at Behold.
Trauma-informed means safety comes first. We go at your pace and never push you to relive the worst moments. When the fear and grief underneath are met with care instead of carried alone, they begin to soften, and your body can learn it’s allowed to rest.
Your feelings make sense
We see your reactions as your nervous system’s attempts to stay safe, not as flaws to fix.
New experiences, at your pace
Hard emotions are felt in small, manageable steps, with someone steady beside you. You can always slow down or pause.
Connection as part of healing
Trauma often happens in relationships, and healing can too. We look at how trauma shapes your closest relationships, and how those relationships can become a source of safety.
How EFT and EMDR work together
Trauma-informed EFT is the foundation of our work. It builds the safety, emotional understanding, and relational healing that trauma recovery rests on. For some clients, EMDR is added within that foundation to help process specific memories that still feel stuck. You never have to choose one or the other on your own; we’ll decide together what supports you best.
What therapy can look like
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Getting to know you
We learn your story and what you hope will feel different, at whatever depth feels right.
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Building steadiness
We practice ways to calm your body and feel grounded, so harder work has a safe base.
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Making sense of patterns
We explore how past hurts show up in your reactions and relationships today.
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Processing and integrating
When you’re ready, we work through what still feels stuck, through EFT, EMDR, or both.
Therapists who offer trauma therapy
Erin H. Kim, AMFT
EFT-trained · EMDR-trained, in ongoing consultation
Erin offers a warm, unhurried space for individuals, especially Asian American clients carrying family expectations, cultural pressure, and hurts that never had room to be felt. She helps clients slow down, make sense of their reactions, and feel safe in their own bodies again.
Kelley Kuit, LMFT
EFT-trained · EMDR-trained, in ongoing consultation
Kelley helps people who learned early to hold everything together on their own, often through anxiety, panic, or shutting down, find steadiness and let others in. She welcomes clients from all walks of life, including people of faith.
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