Behold Counseling
Marriage & Family Therapy
Emotions are hard
but they make us human.
We didn't know...
Most of us weren’t taught about emotions – how to understand them nor how to manage them. But emotions follow us through our whole life and ultimately play a role in how we relate to ourselves and to other people. When we don't learn to understand, respond to, and care for our emotions in a healthy way, we have a harder time in adulthood relating to other people, building safe relationships, and feeling secure in our decisions. My goal is to help you navigate your emotional experiences so you can build security in your identity, resolve internal conflicts, and understand your relationships so you can build meaningful connections with others.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a humanistic approach to building emotional attunement and mending relationships. It focuses not just cognitively (dealing with our thoughts) but experientially (with our whole selves). The model looks at how emotions affect the way we see ourselves and how we bond with others. Human beings are innately relational, social, and wired for intimacy and closeness. EFT understands that emotions are more than just a reaction to our circumstances and stress. Emotions are built into us and are a key component that guides our everyday choices and affects how we make major life decisions - whether we like it or not. When we lack emotional awareness or avoid unpleasant emotions, we struggle to feel secure in ourselves.
Potential Benefits of EFT:
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Increased self-awareness and self-acceptance
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Feeling more connected and able to stay present
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Increased empathy and understanding
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Emotional resiliency and strength
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Lasting inner change and transformation
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Inner peace and relief
Focus for Individuals:
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Building awareness around underlying thoughts/emotions behind our problems
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Re-processing un-resolved emotions from childhood
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Learn to welcome, allow, and regulate emotions
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Building openness and acceptance for our past
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Decoding negative messages from childhood
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Developing self-compassion
Focus for Couples:
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Breaking down negative reactions that keep you stuck in patterns that trigger each other
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Understanding each partner’s behavior, perspective, and emotional cues/triggers
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Building awareness of each partner’s attachment fears in the relationship
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Learning to respond with compassion versus criticism or withdrawal
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Changing the way each person communicates and meets each other’s needs
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Processing and repairing past relationship injuries that may be unresolved